Women don't like nice guys

[andy06shake]

I yearned for a girlfriend during my youth. I was very lonely and spent most of the time on the underground floor of a public library reading the few books about UFOs they had on the shelves of the small paranormal section. I don't think I could ever have a relationship now. I would question why she wasn't with me in the prime of her life when I needed her the most? Yet she was probably making other men happy and giving their lives meaning. Also women who already have children is a big no, no. It's not my DNA and I'd want nothing to do with it.

It makes sense that loneliness from youth can leave deep marks, but your past doesn't disqualify you from connection now if that's what you desire.

People come into our lives at different times, not because they failed us earlier, but because we grow into who we can connect with.

A future partner wouldn't be responsible for the hurt you experienced, you both would be meeting as you are today.

Love doesn't have an "expiry date" mate.

And it's never too late to build something real if you stay open to it.

[andy06shake]

It is weird how people will say both 1) that movie is practically a documentary, and 2) eugenics is wrong and evil.

Eugenics never goes away Ultra.

The notion simply dissipates and goes underground until such time as fear and hate become politically viable to promote once again.

Recognising that pattern is the ticket and how societies push back.

The problem is that humanity has a penchant for repeating history.

Eugenics is a tool of sorts, and just like most other tools, the purpose to which it is applied determines whether it is benevolent or malevolent.

As a race through, i don't think we are mature enough to embrace or play with the likes of Eugenics just yet, considering where it leads.

We still hate and fear anything different after all.

[andy06shake]

The problem is women are conditioned to only interact with confident and socially accepted men. Only bad boys can override these social cues otherwise women will only ever acknowledge quiet guys if they are accepted by other men in their surroundings.

I think you need to speak to some woman.

I mean its understandable you feel frustrated, but that view oversimplifies women and limits your own possibilities.

The fact is, most women aren't filtering for "bad boys", at least once they grow up.

They're responding to how someone makes them feel.

Confidence isn't about loudness or dominance it's more about being steady and grounded, basically being comfortable in a situation. 

Instead of assuming the deck is stacked, i think it could be a lot more empowering for you to focus on building genuine connections where you feel at ease.

People notice authenticity, not just status, especially so where women are concerned. 

You're not excluded.

You just don't need to fit the stereotype you're imagining. 

[BeTheGoddess]

OP, I dont know if you like obscure Dutch films from the 90's, I think you might get some insight and entertainment from this:

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0116577/?ref_=fn_t_1

Was screened here with the English title Bastards and Bridesmaids.

[WallFlowerActive]

I dont think this applies to OPs situation though ?.

When I was in my forties, tried to date a women in her thirties.  I make good money but pay quite a bit in child support.  Side note. The mother of my child got disability after the divorce and doesn’t have a job. She got turned down twice for disability and had to sue to get it.  So thanks for all the people supporting my ex wife and her lawyer.  Anyway.  The women I started dating in her thirties made about $25,000 a year with three children.  When she started talking about taking 5 or 6 thousand dollar vacations with her kids each year.  I was out.

Good women that value working as a team and have mutual respect marry and stay married.  There are large numbers of women that are gold diggers and / or want an unrealistic rock and roll lifestyle.





I get men that are successful are desirable.  But even Hilter had a girlfriend.  Where many women care more about success if means dollars in the bank. 

I know of two or three guys that have gotten married after a divorce with kids to classic cases of the “evil step mom” to the point their own children don’t want anything to do with their remarried dads. 
 

Blues in the Night
William Gillespie 

My mama done tol' me
When I was in knee pants
My mama done tol' me
Son! A woman'll sweet talk
And give ya the big eye;
But when the sweet talkin's done
A woman's a two face
A worrisome thing
Who'll leave ya t'sing
The blues in the night

https://genius.com/William-gillespie-blu...ght-lyrics

[LightAngel]

When you value and respect yourself then you will often gravitate toward partners who are kind and supportive.

So women who respect themselves choose partners who respect them back. 

[Bakodiver]

I was a slow starter and awkward with women.  Around my mid twenties I looked at where my life was going and just said NO.  I started doing crazy adventurous stuff, like sail across the Pacific, and even more wild adventures.  I'm in my mid 60's now, and still do crazy adventures.  Having those experiences under one's belt means you can walk the walk and talk the talk, and people respect and admire you.  And each success builds on the last until you can accomplish things you never dreamt of as a youth.  As an example, last week I was exploring in the jungle and found 2 Japanese Zeros from WW2.  I've been married for 25 years now and have 6 grandchildren.  Get out there and live life and people will want to tag along.

[Oldcarpy2]

This meant a lot to me in my youth:

'Now here you go againYou say you want your freedomWell, who am I to keep you down?It's only right that you shouldPlay the way you feel itBut listen carefullyTo the sound of your lonelinessLike a heartbeat drives you madIn the stillness of remembering what you hadAnd what you lostAnd what you hadAnd what you lostOh, thunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Say women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowYou'll knowNow here I go againI see the crystal visionsI keep my visions to myselfIt's only me who wants to wrap around your dreamsAnd have you any dreams you'd like to sell?Dreams of lonelinessLike a heartbeat drives you madIn the stillness of remembering what you hadAnd what you lostAnd what you hadOoh, what you lostThunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowOh, thunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Say women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowYou'll knowYou will knowOh, you'll know"

- Fleetwood Mac

[BeTheGoddess]

OP have you not noticed people here being supportive?. 

Take time to ponder that.

You're not alone here, we're all fkd up on some level, if you can connect with us weirdos, put it in practice IRL.

But more importantly is dont look for a woman just because 'making babies' because thats just going to work.

[BeTheGoddess]

This meant a lot to me in my youth:

'Now here you go againYou say you want your freedomWell, who am I to keep you down?It's only right that you shouldPlay the way you feel itBut listen carefullyTo the sound of your lonelinessLike a heartbeat drives you madIn the stillness of remembering what you hadAnd what you lostAnd what you hadAnd what you lostOh, thunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Say women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowYou'll knowNow here I go againI see the crystal visionsI keep my visions to myselfIt's only me who wants to wrap around your dreamsAnd have you any dreams you'd like to sell?Dreams of lonelinessLike a heartbeat drives you madIn the stillness of remembering what you hadAnd what you lostAnd what you hadOoh, what you lostThunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowOh, thunder only happens when it's rainin'Players only love you when they're playin'Say women, they will come and they will goWhen the rain washes you clean, you'll knowYou'll knowYou will knowOh, you'll know"

- Fleetwood Mac

fk u now Im going to have to listen to the Rumors album and due to time difference you cant stop thi...

I'll let myself out.