Women don't like nice guys

[imitator]

I didn't get it together till I hit fifty. 

That was a powerful story, man...

I’m really sorry about your granddaughter...
The fact that you stepped up for her kids while dealing with your own disability, says a lot about your character.

That’s the stuff that really matters.

[Maxmars]

To the OP...

With much brotherly love...

Dude...

First of all - to really find a woman - you have to go look for them.
In fishing we put the bait in the water... you  must speak with women...

Women are not like a random piece of fruit hanging from a tree.

They are people... and that means it not just about "romance." 
More women are learning not to plunge themselves into one-dimensional relationships.   
It can't all be about her, as much as it can't be all about you.  Deep breaths.

Yup... it is frustrating to watch the finest examples of nice ladies 'gravitate' to the social magnet.

But as they grow up... ladies can sense that being a "magnet" is not necessarily a very good thing. And 
sometimes being the "social" kind can definitely be much worse.

BUT most importantly... I understand the loneliness and the grief ... truly. 

First... before you lament a loss... you must actually "lose."   
You have not yet "lost" so don't just give up now....

The harder truth is the irony... because I am certain that at the moment you are feeling almost exactly the same as a woman who longs to simply carry on a conversation with a man...
who simply wants to carry on a conversation with a woman... 
(actually - the gender thing is beside the point.)

It might heal you both....

If you wish to meet a woman, a human being, to get angry, to laugh, to want to do it again...
You must be prepared to 'be met'.... be willing to 'see' and not 'be seen.'  

or not...

It's really a wide open field of potentials....  just speak with any lady over a long enough period of time... and eventually... she'll find you a prospect herself... even some guys help each other out... occasionally

Good luck...  

In the end, you will find that place where at least you can be comfortable.

[Bush Master]

My female friends are mostly bad girls, but I like nice girls. My wife is evidence of that.

I guess it comes down to the excitement level that people want. I can afford to take it down a notch.

I realize now that I provide the excitement in relationships. Also, I was definitely the "bad boy" but didn't realize it at the time because I was actually trying to be good and nice....but people were always testing me. I think it has something to do with everybody wanting to slay the dragon, metaphorically. 

I scared a lot of decent girls off, by not giving a damn about crap they venerate. I'm just not good at feigning interest in conformal junk, like Hollywood, for instance. No, I just work on my own stuff and gain success independently, without kissing ass. Does that make ma a bad boy? Certainly not, I'm still the one who holds doors and pays tabs.

Rent this. Trust me. It'll change your life. I don't even like period movies. This is a guy movie before there were guy movies.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2p_wCIPlt8

[Bush Master]

[Bush Master]

[ElitePlebeian]

The problem is women are conditioned to only interact with confident and socially accepted men. Only bad boys can override these social cues otherwise women will only ever acknowledge quiet guys if they are accepted by other men in their surroundings.

This is just not true, read the posts in this thread. 

I think youve put walls in place for yourself so you can accept your situation. Which is probably normal in your situation but not helpful. 

If you really really still want you can get a relationship, but the question is are you willing to put the effort in?

Work on yourself, be a lot and i mean a lot less cynical and force yourself to stop thinking in black and white. Correct yourself every time you notice it. Use the advice given here and if you need more help go look for it again. Look at how were all lining up in this thread alone to help you in our own way..

[WallFlowerActive]

Women are not like a random piece of fruit hanging from a tree.

Try dating in your fifties with a child in their teens in your house hold.  Had a woman breakup with me because they couldn’t “raise another child”.

When in their fifties that aren’t married are looking for guys with cash to take them on their dream vacations.  

Pretty much gave up.  Don’t need my kid exposed to crazy women that want her out of the picture.

[BeTheGoddess]

Listen to some KRS

[ElitePlebeian]

Try dating in your fifties with a child in their teens in your house hold.  Had a woman breakup with me because they couldn’t “raise another child”.

When in their fifties that aren’t married are looking for guys with cash to take them on their dream vacations.  

Pretty much gave up.  Don’t need my kid exposed to crazy women that want her out of the picture.

I dont think this applies to OPs situation though ?.

[Stealth Blimp]

I dont think this applies to OPs situation though ?.

Of course it doesn't. No woman has ever wanted to spend time with me let alone carry my child in her womb for six months. It doesn't look like any woman will ever want to preserve my dna by having my child. I kinda despise men who've experienced this privilege especially if they have a daughter (they get to have two women who care about them).