Women don't like nice guys

[Stealth Blimp]

I'm 40 years old and have never had a girlfriend, been in a relationship or even had a friend who was female save for an elderly female relative. Women have either always ignored me or construed me as a competitor rather than a lover but they seem to be enamoured with men who I can only describe as "thugs" and "bad boys". Now I don't hate women for this as there are obviously evolutionary adaptations why women gravitate toward the most confident, successful and sometimes aggressive males (protection, resources etc.) at the expense of socially awkward men such as myself. However I do object to young women mocking me slyly while they give pleasure to "bad boys". It's as if women can tell I'm genetically unfit to reproduce and I find this upsetting.

[imitator]

I'm 40 years old and have never had a girlfriend, been in a relationship or even had a friend who was female save for an elderly female relative. Women have either always ignored me or construed me as a competitor rather than a lover but they seem to be enamoured with men who I can only describe as "thugs" and "bad boys". Now I don't hate women for this as there are obviously evolutionary adaptations why women gravitate toward the most confident, successful and sometimes aggressive males (protection, resources etc.) at the expense of socially awkward men such as myself. However I do object to young women mocking me slyly while they give pleasure to "bad boys". It's as if women can tell I'm genetically unfit to reproduce and I find this upsetting.

I think the bad boy thing is largely exaggerated by social media and movies...
I don't think women are seeking out thugs. However, I have seen some at Home Depot looking for repair guys LOL... 

Most people date whoever they click with, feel comfortable around, and can actually talk to. Instead of being socially awkward, be more out going... 

[andy06shake]

I'm 40 years old and have never had a girlfriend, been in a relationship or even had a friend who was female save for an elderly female relative. Women have either always ignored me or construed me as a competitor rather than a lover but they seem to be enamoured with men who I can only describe as "thugs" and "bad boys". Now I don't hate women for this as there are obviously evolutionary adaptations why women gravitate toward the most confident, successful and sometimes aggressive males (protection, resources etc.) at the expense of socially awkward men such as myself. However I do object to young women mocking me slyly while they give pleasure to "bad boys". It's as if women can tell I'm genetically unfit to reproduce and I find this upsetting.

Have you seen some of the people who manage to reproduce? 

It's not exactly a badge of endorsement being genetically fit to reproduce.

You sound like you've had a lot of difficult experiences with relationships and social dynamics.

Feeling rejected or overlooked is painful mate.

But framing it as a reflection of your "genetic fitness" or women's behavior as a form of judgment isn't going to be helpful.

It might be best to focus on building friendships and confidence, rather than comparing yourself to others, or expecting sympathy for perceived slights.

End of the day, there is someone out there for everyone, don't be upset, just be you.

[DBCowboy]

I'm 40 years old and have never had a girlfriend, been in a relationship or even had a friend who was female save for an elderly female relative. Women have either always ignored me or construed me as a competitor rather than a lover but they seem to be enamoured with men who I can only describe as "thugs" and "bad boys". Now I don't hate women for this as there are obviously evolutionary adaptations why women gravitate toward the most confident, successful and sometimes aggressive males (protection, resources etc.) at the expense of socially awkward men such as myself. However I do object to young women mocking me slyly while they give pleasure to "bad boys". It's as if women can tell I'm genetically unfit to reproduce and I find this upsetting.

Do you go to church?

[Stealth Blimp]

Do you go to church?

No and from what I've experienced Church congregations in the UK are not friendly toward asocial men such as myself. They might be less smug in the US?

[DBCowboy]

No and from what I've experienced Church congregations in the UK are not friendly toward asocial men such as myself. They might be less smug in the US?

Church socials are a nice place to meet women.

So are volunteer agencies, like animal shelters, food centers, etc.

[andy06shake]

No and from what I've experienced Church congregations in the UK are not friendly toward asocial men such as myself. They might be less smug in the US?

DBCowboys got a point.

I bet there will be loads of divorced 40-something women at the likes of Church socials.

Wanting to find God, and share the experience with another human being.

You will be like fresh meat and in demand soldier.

As to the confidence part, that's just a fake it till you make it scenario.

Women like people who tell the truth and are funny.

The rest will come to you mate, im sure you will do just fine if you put yourself out there.

[IdeomotorPrisoner]

I'm 40 years old and have never had a girlfriend, been in a relationship or even had a friend who was female save for an elderly female relative. Women have either always ignored me or construed me as a competitor rather than a lover but they seem to be enamoured with men who I can only describe as "thugs" and "bad boys". Now I don't hate women for this as there are obviously evolutionary adaptations why women gravitate toward the most confident, successful and sometimes aggressive males (protection, resources etc.) at the expense of socially awkward men such as myself. However I do object to young women mocking me slyly while they give pleasure to "bad boys". It's as if women can tell I'm genetically unfit to reproduce and I find this upsetting.

Well, you know, nothing screams confidence like self-loathing. 

I cant tell shit about your genetics, but if that OP is anything like your pick up lines start there. 

If you speak too clearly, you expose too much. 

If a girl is talking to a guy and he says he's 40 and he's never been with any one because women can smell an inferior specimen, dont be surprised if she believes you and thinks, "Wow, he's 40 and he cant get anyone, what else hasn't he not had the confidence to do by 40?" 

The next words expected are, "And i live with my mom." 

So lie about your game. Project The confidence of an alpha male asshole. Fake it till you make it.  

When I troll as an INCEL sock account, I love using this apex alpha male Eminem song... for being the most male song ever, and because it epitomizes Ken and Barbie dating in my mind.

[DBCowboy]

Well, you know, nothing screams confidence like self-loathing. 

I cant tell shit about your genetics, but if that OP is anything like your pick up lines start there. 

If you speak too clearly, you expose too much. 

If a girl is talking to a guy and he says he's 40 and he's never been with any one because women can smell an inferior specimen, dont be surprised if they think, "Wow, he's 40 and he cant get anyone, what else hasn't he accomplished by 40?" 

The next words expected are, "And i live with my mom." 

So lie.  Project The confidence of an alpha male asshole. Fake it till you make it.  

When I troll as an INCEL sock account, I love using this apex alpha male Eminem song... for being the most male song ever, and because it epitomizes Ken and Barbie dating in my mind.

What is so fucking wrong with being honest?

Jesus!

[UltraBudgie]

No and from what I've experienced Church congregations in the UK are not friendly toward asocial men such as myself. They might be less smug in the US?

if your asocial why would you want woman r kids? if it is biourges you can make that transactional. but that doesn't seem what u want?