04-07-2026, 05:42 AM
This post was last modified: 04-07-2026, 06:43 AM by quintessentone. 
(04-06-2026, 04:02 PM)ArMaP Wrote: As I see it, depression is more a phase than a feeling or even a state.
We may enter that phase through many ways, and in the same way I suppose there are many ways of getting out of it, but they are all specific to that person and to the way they entered that phase. "Good news" may not even register as such for someone depressed, they are just "news" they see as irrelevant for their situation.
From what I have seen (not in myself, as I was never affected by depression to need medication, or at least to be noticed as needing medication), some medication may help people see some of the "exits", but they need to choose which one and make the decision to exit.
It's a complex thing.
It is interesting you mention it being a 'phase' for some people. I think my 'phase' was the 'mid-life crisis phase' which had me facing down the deep black hole and trying to figure out whether to jump in and to simply 'pick up my marbles, stop playing the game, and walk away for some self care without any responsibilities' where others can do all the hard work required. But then my upbringing kicked in and I pulled up my bootstraps and got on with what needed to be done in life. Instead of choosing the easy way out to self care, I chose to harden myself to life's hardships and cruelty. But my self care did actually begin during that time because I then also started putting myself first and/or rewarding myself now and again whereas before I put everyone else ahead of my needs.
I treat myself often now, but then my obligations in life are few now and I do try to embrace humor more often and fit it into my day.
I also find words of wisdom are all around us, in religious sayings, koans, etc. Meditation and calming the mind work wonders...even counting to 10 works wonders. But 'don't sweat it' or 'don't worry about things that you cannot control' are my recent go to modes of being. I have many memes of the elderly and their not giving a f**k sayings, but I don't post them here, they are just for me to remind myself to not give a f**k about most of the nonsense I encounter out there.
"The only journey is the one within."





