We assume too much

[Leftiris]

Perhaps you are just assuming that we assume too much? (Sorry, just being playful here.)

I can empathize with your sentiment, as I have felt the frustration frequently.  It's like we are all internally programmed to carry out our internal judgments with a total disregard for any humility, or self-reflection.  We definitely are all guilty of bias and presumption, only as a matter of the reality that discussion presents that hazard automatically (akin to free speech)... and it is especially damaging when we forget that "defending" an idea doesn't really require "attacking" another idea.

I'm sorry that you have faced this and are upset (see? I'm assuming here.)  But your point isn't lost if that wasn't the reason for your thread.  

It rings true regardless... we do assume too much, too frequently, and we often forgo the dignity of the person with whom we disagree.

Now... if this was about "me," I think you're wrong... wrong, wrong, wrong! (Playfully.. not serious.)

My best to you always,

MM

Haha see.

I'm just an observer. I've always been a quiet one who sits and listens and watches everyone. So it was just an observation, that lead to the thought.

I tend to always sound "upset" when I'm writing on the internet. I always approach it with walls up and guarded. It's literally just because I'm a shi**y writer that just so happensto like sharing ideas. I read my stuff sometimes and think, damn, I sound like a d***. Ha Truth is, I'm really not. I've just never had a strong internet presence because I haven't spent a whole lot of my time on it for socializing. It's just not my style. I'm an in person person, and a stellar speaker. I just can't write for s***.



What I found so concerning is not that we assume, so much. It's that we always assume the worst of the other person.

I wonder how many times I've "disliked" someone online, but would actually be best friends with if we had met in person or even just really got along with.

And yeah, it's happened to me so much, I know it happens to others just as much.

I took a step back today and saw this going down, and just realized, most of what we think about other people is wrong. We're just plain ol mean to each other sometimes. And assumptions can be extremely destructive. I've seen lives destroyed over an assumption that wasn't true.

Thanks, MM. Back at ya.