01-01-2025, 03:24 PM
Hey KT,
I feel for your son. At my age (45), I’ve learned to be stronger than him and the situation. Ghosting is the only solution. I always tell people “If I thought as poorly of myself, as my dad thinks of me — I would have killed myself a long time ago.
So in September last year, 3 days before my father’s birthday, I told him I wasn’t going to speak to him anymore, due to the gaslighting shit he says to me. How did he respond to this? He wrote me a 6 page snail mail letter (he’s a two finger typer so it must have taken him an entire day to do it), gaslighting the hell out of me telling me what a piece of shit I am. I mean LITERALLY, I told him I wasn’t going to speak to him anymore for doing this — and he decided to double down and put it into writing. It was some nice cherries and sprinkles on top of a “FUCK YOU!”
I know it would be difficult for your son to do so at his age, but the smartest thing he could do is block his father from contact. It worked for me. We were at the same XMAS party less than two weeks ago. He didn’t even try anything with me. Do you know why? Because I would have called his ass out in front of everyone. He finally understands that I am stronger than him. And I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE to take shit from ANYONE! Thanks DAD for giving me the power to say FUCK YOU to anyone that is a narcissistic PRICK — including YOU!
Thank you for the kind words. Always appreciate you sister!
I feel for your son. At my age (45), I’ve learned to be stronger than him and the situation. Ghosting is the only solution. I always tell people “If I thought as poorly of myself, as my dad thinks of me — I would have killed myself a long time ago.
So in September last year, 3 days before my father’s birthday, I told him I wasn’t going to speak to him anymore, due to the gaslighting shit he says to me. How did he respond to this? He wrote me a 6 page snail mail letter (he’s a two finger typer so it must have taken him an entire day to do it), gaslighting the hell out of me telling me what a piece of shit I am. I mean LITERALLY, I told him I wasn’t going to speak to him anymore for doing this — and he decided to double down and put it into writing. It was some nice cherries and sprinkles on top of a “FUCK YOU!”
I know it would be difficult for your son to do so at his age, but the smartest thing he could do is block his father from contact. It worked for me. We were at the same XMAS party less than two weeks ago. He didn’t even try anything with me. Do you know why? Because I would have called his ass out in front of everyone. He finally understands that I am stronger than him. And I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE to take shit from ANYONE! Thanks DAD for giving me the power to say FUCK YOU to anyone that is a narcissistic PRICK — including YOU!
Thank you for the kind words. Always appreciate you sister!
