Might have to try this...finding your path

[putnam6]

This resonated with me today, because I do try and keep my nose to the grindstone and the routine work till exhaustion... wash rinse repeat... 

Im thankful for every morning of every day, but I rarely reflect like I should... the family has had a few challenging months recently... I want to be able to help those who are struggling, and this might help me find something to slow their minds and focus on finding balance, so life doesn't seem so daunting for them at the moment.

It's like my older sister suggested, it's having the faith that whatever storm comes your way, you will have the strength and wisdom to find and navigate your path.

It's been 13-14 years since I intensely prayed/mediated, I RARELY do, and it was about my daughter(s) then as it is now.

She is independent as hell, rarely complains or asks for anything... her life was going well, found a good guy who is great for her, but they have been given a couple of gut punches so close together it's a lot

After the first gut punch, we were talking, and she said

"Daddy, sometimes my heart feels so broken I think it's gonna burst"... 

She is doing better and has a therapist for her loss, but on top of this other horrible news ....

I want to find the best way for her and her husband to find the peace and solace they are both looking for... 
 

 
[Image: https://pbs.twimg.com/profile_images/191...normal.jpg]
Mase

@masonkuhr

Most people avoid meditation because stillness forces them to confront everything they've been running from. You stay busy, stay distracted, stay moving because sitting in silence means facing the emotions you've buried, the truths you've avoided, and the pain you've been numbing. But that's exactly why you need it. The things you're running from are the things keeping you stuck. Stillness isn't some New Age practice that conflicts with Scripture. It's how you commune with God. "Be still and know that I am God" wasn't a suggestion, it was an instruction. You can't hear His voice when you're drowning it out with constant noise and endless activity. When you finally sit in silence and those uncomfortable emotions start rising - the anxiety, the grief, the anger, the shame, that’s the Holy Spirit interceding for you with groans too deep for words. He's bringing to the surface what needs to be felt, processed, and released. Your body has been holding emotions you never gave yourself permission to feel. Meditation creates space for those stored feelings to finally come up and out. The resistance you feel toward sitting still is actually your fear of what might surface if you stop running. David wrote the Psalms from a place of stillness where he processed every emotion before God: rage, despair, confusion, joy. He didn't suppress his feelings or stay busy to avoid them. He sat with God and let everything come to the surface. That's why his relationship with God was so deep. Jesus regularly withdrew to solitary places to pray. He practiced stillness not because He was escaping life but because He was preparing for it. In the silence, He heard the Father's voice. In the stillness, He gained clarity for His mission. In the solitude, He processed what was coming. When you meditate and difficult emotions arise, you're finally acknowledging what's already there. The anxiety you feel in stillness has been running in the background of your mind all along. The sadness that surfaces during prayer has been weighing on your heart for months. Stillness reveals your emotions so they can be healed. The Holy Spirit knows what you're carrying better than you do. When you give Him space through stillness, He starts bringing things to your attention that need to be released. Sometimes it's grief you never processed. Sometimes it's anger you never expressed. Sometimes it's fear you never acknowledged. He's faithful to surface what needs healing. The emotions you're running from don't disappear when you stay busy, they just get stronger. But when you sit with them in God's presence, they lose their power over you. Stillness is where warriors are made over time. Be still. Feel what comes up. Trust that the Holy Spirit is doing the work your constant activity has been preventing. On the other side of that discomfort is the freedom you've been searching for.
7:45 AM · Oct 6, 2025
·
170K
Views

[David64]

Having 3 kids myself, sometimes all you can do is be there. A shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen and do whatever you can to make it a bit easier.

[sahgwa]

This resonated with me today, because I do try and keep my nose to the grindstone and the routine work till exhaustion... wash rinse repeat... 

Im thankful for every morning of every day, but I rarely reflect like I should... the family has had a few challenging months recently... I want to be able to help those who are struggling, and this might help me find something to slow their minds and focus on finding balance, so life doesn't seem so daunting for them at the moment.

It's like my older sister suggested, it's having the faith that whatever storm comes your way, you will have the strength and wisdom to find and navigate your path.

It's been 13-14 years since I intensely prayed/mediated, I RARELY do, and it was about my daughter(s) then as it is now.

She is independent as hell, rarely complains or asks for anything... her life was going well, found a good guy who is great for her, but they have been given a couple of gut punches so close together it's a lot

After the first gut punch, we were talking, and she said

"Daddy, sometimes my heart feels so broken I think it's gonna burst"... 

She is doing better and has a therapist for her loss, but on top of this other horrible news ....

I want to find the best way for her and her husband to find the peace and solace they are both looking for... 
 

As humans we have been trained in modern times to be fearful of silence and our own thoughts. 
We have been told it is cool/convenient/progressive , essentially to be stupid, and to blast noise at ourselves and to constantly engage our eyes and hands 24/7 nonstop.

If she/you/everyone just takes 10 mins a day to sit in a quiet room alone, and just close your eyes and just breathe, that's it at first, it's amazing how you can destress and sort things out.
We dream to not just learn or travel , but to allow our subconscious to solve problems and process events. 
Sitting quietly, in a chair, anywhere,  alone, and just looking at your thoughts without judgement or fighting, and just breathing with them, can do wonders.

[argentus]

I don't have any kids, so I don't know shit about shit.  

However, I know about people.   I believe that the more open people are with their problems and their needs, the more they can create a dialogue with the people around them to wrangle those needs.   Everybody has something to learn and something to teach, and everybody has something to give and something they need.   Open conversation is the only way, imo.   Agree with the above:  people are afraid to talk.  They are embarrassed to have needs they have kept secret.   If there is any advice I could give to young couples, it would be (1) negotiate for your needs;  don't negotiate for things you don't care about, just give in to those. (2) Don't cheat.  Ever., unless that is part of your agreement with each other.

[putnam6]

As humans we have been trained in modern times to be fearful of silence and our own thoughts. 
We have been told it is cool/convenient/progressive , essentially to be stupid, and to blast noise at ourselves and to constantly engage our eyes and hands 24/7 nonstop.

If she/you/everyone just takes 10 mins a day to sit in a quiet room alone, and just close your eyes and just breathe, that's it at first, it's amazing how you can destress and sort things out.
We dream to not just learn or travel , but to allow our subconscious to solve problems and process events. 
Sitting quietly, in a chair, anywhere,  alone, and just looking at your thoughts without judgement or fighting, and just breathing with them, can do wonders.

Yes, I agree...

I always mention finding a quiet place outside in the sunshine and air.

She wasn't able to get outside for a little while, and the importance of eating healthy and getting exercise to burn off the stress. She has a high-stress job as it is, I think she is doing well, but I also know she is a lot like me and would just power through it... 

Her husband is excellent with her, kind and caring. He is there for her emotionally 

That's the 2nd gut punch.

His mom, who is in her early 60s, is terminal and has to be put in hospice; they live across the country, and it's just him and his sister, so we have all those emotions and the very real and urgent decisions that need to be made.

It's unusual for such young adults to have to make those decisions 

He is with them now, doing exactly as he should for his Mom. He and I talk and text some, and I want to be able to help him as well.

[putnam6]

Having 3 kids myself, sometimes all you can do is be there. A shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen and do whatever you can to make it a bit easier.

Yes, exactly...  they are across the country and we try and talk or text every day, we do a group text with her sister, and we try and keep it light and airy

[Martin75]

Ask them.

Sometimes getting them to answer is hard but just sit and wait.  Don't accept, its OK; unless that's really the answer.  Sometimes just a place to quietly reflect is hard to find.  Let them know that your house is available just as much as your shoulder.  Today they might just want a quiet corner but it may give them the time until they are ready for a strong support.  Its hard to say how someone else is grieving and what they may need.  You obviously love them, so you know them.  Just talk and let them know that you are there to support their grief in whatever way they need. 

[putnam6]

I don't have any kids, so I don't know shit about shit.  

However, I know about people.   I believe that the more open people are with their problems and their needs, the more they can create a dialogue with the people around them to wrangle those needs.   Everybody has something to learn and something to teach, and everybody has something to give and something they need.   Open conversation is the only way, imo.   Agree with the above:  people are afraid to talk.  They are embarrassed to have needs they have kept secret.   If there is any advice I could give to young couples, it would be (1) negotiate for your needs;  don't negotiate for things you don't care about, just give in to those. (2) Don't cheat.  Ever., unless that is part of your agreement with each other.

100% They are independent as hell, which I get. I was too at that age, we got him a ride from the airport to where his mom lives, a couple of hours drive, just because tickets back and forth unexpectedly are expensive as hell. So they were very appreciative, but we were happy to help.

I guess thats all you can do is be there and help whenever and wherever you can

I know eventually they will heal, but right now it's a bit raw...we really try and make each other laugh a bit and feel normal