06-23-2025, 06:02 AM
There's always the divide by 2 add 7 rule. 37/2+7 = 25.5 so you're barely okay.
But as with all rules that oversimplify complex social situations, it's not every useful. The real answer is: It depends. First and foremost, you need to be very aware of your advantage. 11 years of life experience is a lot, and if you wanted to manipulate this guy in some way, you probably could. So make sure you don't do that. I know, seems like it goes without saying, but sometimes we manipulate people without knowing it. It's something I'd be careful of if I were you.
With that out of the way, if both parties are clear on it just being a fling, fuck it, why not?
If you want it to be a long-term thing, there's some common pitfalls, I'd ask myself the following questions:
1) Do you want children? Does he?
2) Is he emotionally mature enough for you to respect him as an equal?
3) Do you have enough in common to enjoy each other's company long-term, even after the initial infatuation has faded?
Anyway, you won't know any of this until you actually get to know him. Doing that surely won't hurt. As for society's judgment, fuck 'em, you do you. I know, easy for me to say.
But as with all rules that oversimplify complex social situations, it's not every useful. The real answer is: It depends. First and foremost, you need to be very aware of your advantage. 11 years of life experience is a lot, and if you wanted to manipulate this guy in some way, you probably could. So make sure you don't do that. I know, seems like it goes without saying, but sometimes we manipulate people without knowing it. It's something I'd be careful of if I were you.
With that out of the way, if both parties are clear on it just being a fling, fuck it, why not?
If you want it to be a long-term thing, there's some common pitfalls, I'd ask myself the following questions:
1) Do you want children? Does he?
2) Is he emotionally mature enough for you to respect him as an equal?
3) Do you have enough in common to enjoy each other's company long-term, even after the initial infatuation has faded?
Anyway, you won't know any of this until you actually get to know him. Doing that surely won't hurt. As for society's judgment, fuck 'em, you do you. I know, easy for me to say.
