10-27-2024, 07:36 AM
What the hell do you say to that? I almost said, "For the love of God would you go get laid!"
Getting laid is not an answer. It doesn't solve someone's problems with forming satisfying relationship.
I think a lot of cases of deviant behavior is caused by the lack of father figure during childhood. If someone is brought up by an overbearing mother while the father is absent, doesn't care or has toxic personality, the child ends up being unable to form meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. Daughters end up as lesbians, lonely cat ladies or, at worst, get stuck in toxic relationships with male narcissists. Sons get to hate females because of the dominant mother or become effeminate. A toxic relationship with one's mother usually results in toxic relationships in adult life.
I know I'm overgeneralizing and there can be other reasons for someone's inability to form healthy relationships in adult life. But I know from my own experience that the child needs both the father and mother to develop properly. The mother will not replace the father. My father was largely absent in my life and today I'm unable to trust any guy. I always think he will abandon me after having sex just like my father left my mom.
And if someone is to get stuck in a pathological relationship and torment oneself and other people, then it's better to stay single. Not everyone is emotionally fit to live in a relationship. "Get laid" is nature's imperative and social expectation. It was crucial in the time of Neanderthals to pass on one's genes and prolong human species. Not so much today. I would say today societies have more problems with pathological families than alienated singles
Getting laid is not an answer. It doesn't solve someone's problems with forming satisfying relationship.
I think a lot of cases of deviant behavior is caused by the lack of father figure during childhood. If someone is brought up by an overbearing mother while the father is absent, doesn't care or has toxic personality, the child ends up being unable to form meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. Daughters end up as lesbians, lonely cat ladies or, at worst, get stuck in toxic relationships with male narcissists. Sons get to hate females because of the dominant mother or become effeminate. A toxic relationship with one's mother usually results in toxic relationships in adult life.
I know I'm overgeneralizing and there can be other reasons for someone's inability to form healthy relationships in adult life. But I know from my own experience that the child needs both the father and mother to develop properly. The mother will not replace the father. My father was largely absent in my life and today I'm unable to trust any guy. I always think he will abandon me after having sex just like my father left my mom.
And if someone is to get stuck in a pathological relationship and torment oneself and other people, then it's better to stay single. Not everyone is emotionally fit to live in a relationship. "Get laid" is nature's imperative and social expectation. It was crucial in the time of Neanderthals to pass on one's genes and prolong human species. Not so much today. I would say today societies have more problems with pathological families than alienated singles
