Rhubarb Jam

[argentus]

When my Mom made rhubarb pie, she would roast it first.   I don't know why.  I will ask her tomorrow.

ETA:  Perhaps that carmelizing the sugars.   More tomorrow.

[rickymouse]

I love the stuff and always have, but each to their own. 

Convincing yourself you love something seems rather whack imho.

You either "love" something, or you dont.  

Again, though, if it works for you....

About fifteen years ago, the wife and I got into an argument.  I would stop at the store and buy her something she said she liked before, and she was cooking things that I had told her I liked.

The problem was, we were both being polite, and we wound up eating a lot of things we both really did not like.  So that argument actually was real beneficial, after that we told each other what we really thought about the food we ate and actually after that it turns out that lots of people have the same issue.  I talked to guys I know about that, and they said they do the same thing, and the wife talked to women they know and they also did the same thing...little white lies to try to please your spouse can make life complicated.  At that point, it seems everyone decided to go to a restaurant to eat so they could order their own choice, something they really like.  So is this what is happening in a lot of homes, and because people aren't honest and go out and get food is this leading to increased debt in the family?

Think about what I said, and ask yourself and others you know if it applies.  My initial thought was she must of not been able to tell I was lying to make her happy, to complement her cooking.  And I picked up things to please her, and because I thought she liked some Schwamm stuff I told her to order that because I thought she liked it....then I wound up eating it because she did not really like it, or it got old and got thrown out.  Then she thought I liked it...you can see how things can spin out of control.

Now if a person just starts arguing about the food without having the discussion while arguing like we had, it could lead to divorce or a life of hell.  People need to be aware of things...if you love each other, you should consider that this kind of thing is common and so you both are happy, truth must be discussed.  We are not doctors, we do not have to have a good bedside manner when it comes to food choices.  Save the tje gppd bedside manner for when you are actually in bed together.  Compromise, sometimes negotiating what is for supper is good, write a menu, discuss your actual likes and dislikes, that way negotiating to each have your food can occur.  I am intolerant to tomatoes, so when she makes spaghetti, I make liver or something I like that day.  She hates liver, I like spaghetti, but have issues with tomatoes.  She does not like the white sauces at all...like alfrado sauce.  I can eat some tomatoes on occasion, like one meal a week, but I prefer having that on salad.

Did I make it clear she hates liver.  And she does not like salmon at all, yet she loves whitefish....I keep reminding her, whitefish is actually in the salmon family when she says she does not like salmon.  It won't change her mind, in fact she is probably more against salmon now than before.  I asked her if she has ever eaten salmon....she said no.  I asked her if she has ever eaten liver...she asked me if I was nuts...no she never tasted liver and never will.

[andy06shake]

About fifteen years ago, the wife and I got into an argument.  I would stop at the store and buy her something she said she liked before, and she was cooking things that I had told her I liked.

The problem was, we were both being polite, and we wound up eating a lot of things we both really did not like.  So that argument actually was real beneficial, after that we told each other what we really thought about the food we ate and actually after that it turns out that lots of people have the same issue.  I talked to guys I know about that, and they said they do the same thing, and the wife talked to women they know and they also did the same thing...little white lies to try to please your spouse can make life complicated.  At that point, it seems everyone decided to go to a restaurant to eat so they could order their own choice, something they really like.  So is this what is happening in a lot of homes, and because people aren't honest and go out and get food is this leading to increased debt in the family?

Think about what I said, and ask yourself and others you know if it applies.  My initial thought was she must of not been able to tell I was lying to make her happy, to complement her cooking.  And I picked up things to please her, and because I thought she liked some Schwamm stuff I told her to order that because I thought she liked it....then I wound up eating it because she did not really like it, or it got old and got thrown out.  Then she thought I liked it...you can see how things can spin out of control.

Now if a person just starts arguing about the food without having the discussion while arguing like we had, it could lead to divorce or a life of hell.  People need to be aware of things...if you love each other, you should consider that this kind of thing is common and so you both are happy, truth must be discussed.  We are not doctors, we do not have to have a good bedside manner when it comes to food choices.  Save the tje gppd bedside manner for when you are actually in bed together.  Compromise, sometimes negotiating what is for supper is good, write a menu, discuss your actual likes and dislikes, that way negotiating to each have your food can occur.  I am intolerant to tomatoes, so when she makes spaghetti, I make liver or something I like that day.  She hates liver, I like spaghetti, but have issues with tomatoes.  She does not like the white sauces at all...like alfrado sauce.  I can eat some tomatoes on occasion, like one meal a week, but I prefer having that on salad.

Did I make it clear she hates liver.  And she does not like salmon at all, yet she loves whitefish....I keep reminding her, whitefish is actually in the salmon family when she says she does not like salmon.  It won't change her mind, in fact she is probably more against salmon now than before.  I asked her if she has ever eaten salmon....she said no.  I asked her if she has ever eaten liver...she asked me if I was nuts...no she never tasted liver and never will.

I love liver and onions, as long as the liver is cooked properly and not bloody.

[rickymouse]

I love liver and onions, as long as the liver is cooked properly and not bloody.

I soak it in a a little salt in the water for about five minutes, squishing all the blood out.  Then I rinse it while squishing and cut it into smaller thinner strips.  Then I usually drain it and roll it in drakes or shake and bake chicken or any other dry coating I like and then fry it with onions.  I usually fry the onions in butter first, remove the onions, add some home processed grassfed organic tallow, or sometimes bacon grease and fry the liver in that,  adding the onions back in after they are turned.  Adding some butter if the tallow or bacon grease is low.

I do optionally use refined coconut oil instead of bacon grease or tallow.  If yo mix some coconut oil with the butter, the butter does not get real brown, it doesn't burn and stick to the pan.  I use the coconut oil/butter combo for frying eggs and other things too.  Coconut oil is rich in myristic acid, more than in butter, and it has some mild psychotropic properties that make you feel good and content if used in moderation.  I also put refined coconut oil and butter in the pot when making homemade popcorn to cook it, mostly coconut oil, and no burn't popcorn.  Then I salt it and put butter in the pot with the burner shut off and melt it and add it to the popcorn.

In moderation, refined coconut oil is not bad for most people, and it's saturated fat is moderated by other polyunsaturated fats and some monosaturated fats.  The Butyrate in butter actually helps to keep the guts from experiencing some harms, they promote probiotics to try to replenish the microbes that eat plants and turn it into Butryic acid to protect the guts...let the cow eat the grass and make the butyrate and eat the butter is my choice since foods we eat have chemicals added to kill those microbes.

[rickymouse]

When my Mom made rhubarb pie, she would roast it first.   I don't know why.  I will ask her tomorrow.

ETA:  Perhaps that carmelizing the sugars.   More tomorrow.

Maybe it has something to do with this subject.  boiling foods high in oxylates reduces the oxylates in the food, like with spinach and kale.  It goes into the water.  Frying or broiling causes the oxylates to leave the stems too, so it is less of a problem but still not as good as boiling and tossing out the liquid.  

 Easy to read layman's terms and fairly accurate translation of research link below.
https://sweetishhill.com/how-do-you-remo...m-rhubarb/


Now chocolate has lots of oxylates in it, but if you have milk chocolate, the oxylates somewhat combine with the calcium in the guts and is not abosorbed....so it makes me wonder who came up with the idea that dark chocolate should be eaten instead of hersheys milk chocolate bars...maybe doctors who gain business from doing more kidney stone treatments?

Coffee also has oxylates, but if you add a little milk to it instead of cream it will bind some of those.  Coffee also contains some chemistry naturally that reduces the uptake of oxylates but can't remember what that is.  We use one scoop of coffee per pot, the instructions say we should use two and a quarter times that much, but the wife and I don't like it too strong.  We will not buy a Kerig coffee pot either, partly because a drip coffee maker with a filter helps remove the turpines that cause problems, dripping through a paper filter binds that chemistry whereas if you force it through something, it all goes through.  Those turpine chemistries have something to do with heart rhythm problems sort of like hydroxychloraquin do.  The chloraquins are somewhat neutralized by the filter and coffee has four types of them to help protect us from diseases and parasites.   Pardon my spelling, those chemical names spellings are hard to remember.