Ladies! Or men I guess........what is too big of an age gap in relationship?

[StoutBroux]

As far as the age difference, it's whatever works for the two of you.  My partner is 15 years older than me. I have always preferred older partners because I felt those my age were too immature. And quite frankly, now that I'm much older, and we have been together so long, it has been great. I can help take care of him, where if we were the same age, we would both be struggling at the same time.  So it works great for us. Regardless of his age, I love him dearly so there's that.

I don't think the issue here for you, though, is age.  Because of all the input here from members, your friends, and your own hesitation and comments regarding the other PERSON, he isn't right for you at this moment in time, maybe never.  That's it. 

So, relax, love life, love yourself, focus on being your best self, and love others.

[KTemplar]

Is that a red flag, I mean if he was hanging out around my house I would agree. Trying to line up a chance public meeting isn't that the theme of 90% of romance comedy movies? Exactly how should a young man court an actual women? That last question is a serious one, it's not like men get a course in how to approach and woo you ladies and trust me if they had a manual they would follow it.

Shoshanna mentioned he keeps popping up everywhere and even mentioned she wasn’t sure if he was stalking her.

imo, to ask a question is to answer a question, and the answer is always Yes.

The guy bringing her coffee is sweet.  The popping up everywhere is creepy.  He should just give her his # and let her decide.  

I’ve been stalked before so I may not be the best person to answer this question honestly, I’m a bit jaded!

[Byrd]

What is too big of an age difference in a relationship? Also I want to add into the equation that my ex is in another relationship now with a girl way younger I would say she's probably 23 or 24 and he is 40 but I feel like men get high fives when they do this stuff but when the role is reversed and a woman is with a younger guy it's almost looked at like pity like "oh that poor woman" or whatever like there's something somewhat desperate about older woman younger man where it isn't like that when the man is older. I don't want my ex to be making fun of me hehehehehehe.

** Mod. edit -- Encia22 -- Moved to Relationships **

I know several relationships where the woman is 10 years or so older than the man, and it does work out.

Yes, society sneers at older women involved with younger men (but not the reverse).  

Cher is married to someone 40 years younger. That hunky Jason Momoa is married to a woman 12 years older than him.  I'm a year older than my husband (not an issue now, but shocking to his very conservative family when we married (52 years ago.)  Google "men married to women much older" and you'll see quite a list.

It depends on what the man is interested in.  I have had much younger men interested in me and (in my case) the attraction seems to be to my mind (apparently they adore weird scholars.)  I'm still close friends with two of them (though I would not consider leaving my husband and keep them at the "just very dear friends" relationship.)

So, not impossible and likely that he is fascinated by your opinions and conversation.

[Shoshanna]

Shoshanna mentioned he keeps popping up everywhere and even mentioned she wasn’t sure if he was stalking her.

imo, to ask a question is to answer a question, and the answer is always Yes.

The guy bringing her coffee is sweet.  The popping up everywhere is creepy.  He should just give her his # and let her decide.  

I’ve been stalked before so I may not be the best person to answer this question honestly, I’m a bit jaded!

I think you were right so I gave him my personal phone number and he legit messaged me 91 times! While I was sleeping! [I sleep during the day] Upset and acting nuts that I wasn't responding. So I read like the last 4 messages and blocked him. Ugh. These dudes. I can't with these dudes. RED FLAG!!

[Byrd]

I think you were right so I gave him my personal phone number and he legit messaged me 91 times! While I was sleeping! [I sleep during the day] Upset and acting nuts that I wasn't responding. So I read like the last 4 messages and blocked him. Ugh. These dudes. I can't with these dudes. RED FLAG!!

Good move.

That doesn't sound emotionally healthy on his part.

[sahgwa]

I think you were right so I gave him my personal phone number and he legit messaged me 91 times! While I was sleeping! [I sleep during the day] Upset and acting nuts that I wasn't responding. So I read like the last 4 messages and blocked him. Ugh. These dudes. I can't with these dudes. RED FLAG!!

I am sad to hear that many of our gut instincts were right. But I am glad that you avoided anything bad!
I hope this doesn't stop you from going to the library and having your chill spot. 
Someone normal will come along , if you want it :)

[UltraBudgie]

haha iphone should have a cringe-warning when you try and send 91 messages in a row without getting a response

webforums too

[KTemplar]

I think you were right so I gave him my personal phone number and he legit messaged me 91 times! While I was sleeping! [I sleep during the day] Upset and acting nuts that I wasn't responding. So I read like the last 4 messages and blocked him. Ugh. These dudes. I can't with these dudes. RED FLAG!!

I’m glad you found out right away, but I would still be aware of your surroundings.  Blocked doesn’t always mean safe for you!